So you’ve got a friend that you have developed a crush on. Or perhaps it’s the other way round–you had a beat and have developed a friendship that’s meaningful and worth sticking around for. The point is that you are friends and you would like to take your friendship to another level, and here’s a guide for doing just that.
My wife and I were friends first before we started dating, which was a fantastic thing about us to 2 adults. Being friends first means you get to know someone in a context apart from mutual attraction. In a sense, you might get to observe aspects of someone that you might not get to see if you’re dating first. In a nutshell, being friends first does not have any pressure of dating.
Picture yourself as being a romantic partner with another person and in case you can be satisfied with another person. Try not to think of it as being pleased with another person in as much as being true to yourself. Can you still be yourself around another person and be romantic? If the answer is yes, then perhaps it’s time to check the waters.
Begin by asking your fascination with their feelings about relationships and dating in general should youn’t know that already. Measure the answer–was it negative or positive? Bear in mind, whatever this individual says it might not be geared towards you especially as everybody will have preconceived notions of intimate relationships before they meet someone new.
When the answer favors what you think to be taking another step, begin doing things which might be considered romantic. Request more and more time to spent alone with your buddy. Send anonymous blossoms from “an admirer” and inquire about it if your friend starts talking.
My wife, as we first began dating, was so surprised I’d asked her on a date to see a picture that she glossed right over it and kept on speaking. The response was equally surprising and positive as she had not considered what I’d asked as a date, although secretly she’d confessed to me later that she was starting to have feelings for me.
You’re always going to be friends as long as you remain true to one another and a real friend will always be depended upon even once you act a little weird as you’re feeling things that you have not before towards your friend.